In My DMs
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In My DMs: “How Can I Deal with Body Dissatisfaction — Even When My Sex Life Is Amazing?”
Welcome to In My DMs, a series where I answer the questions that people ask me…
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In My DMs: My Partner Has Performance Anxiety. How Can I Help Without Causing More Stress?
Performance anxiety during sex is incredibly common for folks of all genders. People worry about their…
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How I Became a Sex Educator
I get a lot of questions about how I became a sex educator, so here’s the…
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Why You Should Use Lube During Sex, Even If You Get Wet Easily
When you think you’ve used enough lube, add some more. It can only help.
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In My DMs: “How do I begin to feel comfortable with myself as a sexual being?”
It isn’t strange that you experience sexual shame. When we live in a world that says…
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In My DMs: “I just went down on my girlfriend for the first time, and now I feel self-conscious. Help!”
When it comes to sex, we assume that we have to get everything right the first…
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In My DMs: “It’s been 7 years since I was raped, but it’s starting to affect me now.”
It is very common to not experience a post-traumatic response until long after the sexual trauma…
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In My DMs: “I’ve never had an orgasm during sex with my partner. Am I broken?”
Not having orgasms doesn’t mean you’re broken. Usually, it’s pointing to a different issue entirely.
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In My DMs: “How do I get started with lube?”
My students from Bryn Mawr College asked me how to get started with lube and why…
