Welcome to You Deserve Good Sex!

In September 2020, I launched a new YouTube series with Rewire News Group. It’s called ‘You Deserve Good Sex’ and in each five(ish)-minute episode, I address the topics that my adult students ask me about most often. New episodes drop on YouTube every Friday. I’ll update this page with each new episode as it’s released.

Ep 1: The Myth of Blue Balls

If you were a teen in the United States, you’ve probably encountered the term ‘blue balls’ before. By exploiting a rare (and fairly minor) medical condition, the blue balls myth is commonly used to sexually coerce people. Blue balls aren’t actually real (at least, not in the way you’ve been led to believe).

This episode went live on September 23, 2020.

Ep 2: Before You Send Nudes, Watch This Video

There’s no 100% safe way to send nude photos or videos, but that doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t do it. You just need to be strategic about the precautions you implement. In this video, I’m teaching you how to protect your privacy long after a photo is sent.

This episode went live on September 25, 2020.

Ep 3: Sex Shouldn’t Hurt (Unless You Want It to)

If you’re into consensual pain during sex, great! That’s not what this video is about. In this episode, I’m talking about the widespread lie that says that penetrative sex is naturally painful (and that it’s just something we have to deal with). Whether it’s your first time having sex or your millionth time having sex, the only time sex should hurt is when you want it to.

This episode went live on October 2, 2020.

Ep 4: How to Figure Out What You Like in Bed

It would be awesome if we got little cards in the mail that told us all about what we enjoy in bed, but tragically, we’re not there yet. In this episode, I’m helping you explore your sexual desires and fantasies — and reminding you that your sexual menu is much less shame-filled (and much more vast) than you’ve been led to believe.

This episode went live on October 9, 2020.

Ep 5: You’re Not Using Enough Lube

Using lube doesn’t say *anything* about you or your partners’ level of sexual prowess…except that you prioritize sexual pleasure. Which is a good thing. Lube carries with it a heavy stigma, but it’s also an incredibly (and affordable) sexual tool.

This episode went live on October 16, 2020.

The next episode will be released on October 23, 2020! Stay tuned.