Welcome to You Deserve Good Sex!
In September 2020, I launched a new YouTube series with Rewire News Group. It’s called ‘You Deserve Good Sex’ and in each five(ish)-minute episode, I address the topics that my adult students ask me about most often. New episodes drop on YouTube every Friday. I’ll update this page with each new episode as it’s released.
Ep 1: The Myth of Blue Balls
If you were a teen in the United States, you’ve probably encountered the term ‘blue balls’ before. By exploiting a rare (and fairly minor) medical condition, the blue balls myth is commonly used to sexually coerce people. Blue balls aren’t actually real (at least, not in the way you’ve been led to believe).
This episode went live on September 23, 2020.
Ep 2: Before You Send Nudes, Watch This Video
There’s no 100% safe way to send nude photos or videos, but that doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t do it. You just need to be strategic about the precautions you implement. In this video, I’m teaching you how to protect your privacy long after a photo is sent.
This episode went live on September 25, 2020.
Ep 3: Sex Shouldn’t Hurt (Unless You Want It to)
If you’re into consensual pain during sex, great! That’s not what this video is about. In this episode, I’m talking about the widespread lie that says that penetrative sex is naturally painful (and that it’s just something we have to deal with). Whether it’s your first time having sex or your millionth time having sex, the only time sex should hurt is when you want it to.
This episode went live on October 2, 2020.
Ep 4: How to Figure Out What You Like in Bed
It would be awesome if we got little cards in the mail that told us all about what we enjoy in bed, but tragically, we’re not there yet. In this episode, I’m helping you explore your sexual desires and fantasies — and reminding you that your sexual menu is much less shame-filled (and much more vast) than you’ve been led to believe.
This episode went live on October 9, 2020.
Ep 5: You’re Not Using Enough Lube
Using lube doesn’t say *anything* about you or your partners’ level of sexual prowess…except that you prioritize sexual pleasure. Which is a good thing. Lube carries with it a heavy stigma, but it’s also an incredibly (and affordable) sexual tool.
This episode went live on October 16, 2020.
Ep 6: How to Tell Your Partner What You Want in Bed
Until some pretty big advancements in telepathy are made, we’re going to have to actually talk to our partners about what we want. Bummer, I know. If you’re feeling at a loss for words, these tips will help you out.
This episode went live on October 23, 2020.
Ep 7: How to Stop Faking Orgasms
Orgasms aren’t the only measure of good sex — they’re just one measure of it. So stop faking it and focus on what really makes you feel good instead.
This episode went live on October 30, 2020.
Ep 8: Healthy Sex After Trauma Is Possible. Here’s How.
Your traumatic experiences may have tricked you into thinking that you aren’t worthy or capable of good, healthy sex anymore. That voice is lying to you. You *are* worthy of good, healthy, pleasurable sex.
This episode went live on November 6, 2020.
Ep 9: What to Do If You Change Your Mind During Sex
Despite what you may have been told, it’s totally OK to change your mind during sex—and to speak up about it.
This episode went live on November 13, 2020.
Ep 10: How to Pick the Sex Toy That’s Right for You
Despite what you may have been told, it’s totally OK to change your mind during sex—and to speak up about it.
This episode went live on November 20, 2020 and can only be watched on YouTube.
Ep 11: How to Clean Your Sex Toys
I can’t help you properly clean and season your cast iron skillet, but I *can* help you clean your sex toys. And honestly, that’s one life skill you really, really, really need.
This episode went live on November 20, 2020 and can only be watched on YouTube.
Ep 12: This Is What You Need to Know About Anal Sex
Liking anal play says nothing about your sexual orientation, your gender, or who you are as a person. (Except that you like butts).
This episode went live on November 27, 2020.
That’s all! Season one is wrapped and every episode is out in the world. I’m not sure if You Deserve Good Sex will be renewed for a second season yet, but keep your fingers crossed!