Hey there, Sweet Briar!

I’m so happy to be joining you for another sex & healing event series! I loved learning with you last year, and I know that we’re going to have a great time this year, too. We have four awesome workshops planned for this year, but we’ll focus on the fall semester for now! This event series is funded by the Debby Willis ’11 Fund.

Playing Safely
(Event 2 of 4)
Wednesday, September 15 at 8:00 pm ET

Click to Join • Password: sbc2021

Our 2021-2022 workshops are:

  • Wednesday, September 8: Sex in Translation (click here to add it to your calendar)
    This workshop is entirely focused on sexual communication and talking about what we like (and don’t like!) in bed. Whether you’re partnered or single, playing the field or dancing on your own, this workshop will help you get in-tune with what we want and let go of sexual shame.

  • Wednesday, September 15: Playing Safely (click here to add it to your calendar)
    “Safety” means a lot of different things to each of us, but what does it mean when it comes to sex? In this workshop, we’ll take a shame-free look at sexual safety and how you can figure out the best safety plan for you! We’ll cover barrier methods, lube, consent, STI prevention and management, and pregnancy prevention & options.
  • Wednesday, February 9: For Pleasure’s Sake (click here to add it to your calendar)
    One of the main reasons why people have sex is because it feels good — so why are we so caught up in sexual shame? In this workshop, you’ll learn everything you need to know to explore sex for pleasure’s sake while still living in line with your values.
  • Wednesday, April 20: Supporting Survivors (click here to add it to your calendar)
    Most of us want to be helpful and supportive when our friends are going through something challenging, but knowing how to do that can be a bit tricky. In this workshop, we’ll unpack how you can best support the survivors of sexual violence in your life, including what to say (and what not to say) and how you can take care of yourself, too.

Each workshop will begin at 8:00 pm ET and take place online. The password to each event is sbc2021

Workshop FAQs

Click each question below to read the answer.

I’m nervous to ask something. Can I ask anonymously?

Absolutely! You can submit anonymous questions in advance here, but you’ll also be able to ask questions anonymously throughout each of the workshops.

Will this workshop include LGBTQ+ stuff?

Yep! I won’t make any assumptions about your identity or who you’re interested in (or not interested in). You can expect gender-free language and information relevant to folks all over the gender and sexuality spectrums (including ace folks). If you’re not sure what one of these words means, it would be a great time to submit an anonymous question!

I heard there were prizes. I want one. How do I get one?

Yep, there will be prizes. They’ll be randomly drawn from this raffle form. As a heads-up, there are a few prizes that you’ll need to be at least 18 years old to claim.

Do I need to be 18 to attend?

Nope, we won’t be showing any explicit content. You do need to be 18 to claim a few of the prizes, though. If you’re not, that’s okay! There will be plenty of prizes that you can get, too.

How do I get a wellness kit with barrier methods and lube?

Email Devon Serrano at dserrano@sbc.edu and she’ll tell you how to get ahold of one!

Will my camera be on?

Nope! The default setting is that your camera and mic will be off, and there’s no way to accidentally turn them on. You’ll. just see me, the slides, and the chat! (Names in the chat are anonymized, too).

Do I have to download an app to watch the event?

Nope! Just click the link to join, enter your name, email, and the event password, and you’re all set! No downloads at all. You can join from a mobile browser, but for the best experience, I recommend using a laptop.

Who even am I?

Hi! My name is Cassandra and I’m a sex educator. I work exclusively with college students and other adults to unlearn some of the pretty funky stuff that we picked up when we were younger. My work centers LGBTQ+ folks, is gender-expansive, and strives to be inclusive of a wide variety of experiences. I also have experience as a victims advocate, so we’ll touch on healing from trauma, too. Teaching sex ed to adults is my full-time job, and it’s super fun! You can find me on Instagram @FeministSexEd. I’m looking forward to learning with you!

Here are some songs to get you *~*in the mood*~* to learn about sex

Additional Resources

They’ll be added here after each event! Scroll down to see everything. Captions on the video are autogenerated and you may have to click to watch in YouTube for them to appear.

Event 1: Sex in Translation

This video will disappear on October 8, 2021

Online resources:

  1. Some conflict resolution basics from Scarleteen
  2. Setting boundaries information, by Love Is Respect
  3. Love Languages quiz 
  4. Conflict style quiz
  5. Autostraddle’s Yes/No/Maybe list for sexy time
  6. We Should Try It’s Yes/No/Maybe quiz (digital) (also the company that makes the Spicer app)
  7. MojoUpgrade’s Yes/No/Maybe quiz (digital)
  8. YDGS: How to Figure Out What You Like in Bed
  9. YDGS: How to Tell Your Partner What You Like in Bed
  10. Al Vernacchio’s Pizza & Baseball Video

Books: 

  1. Tongue Tied by Stella Harris
  2. Sex-Positive Talks to Have with Kids by Melissa Pintor-Carnagey

Other resources:

Event 2: Playing Safely

This video will disappear on October 15, 2021

Online resources:

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