Hey there, New College!
As a New College alumna, I’m truly jazzed to be welcoming you to this new school year with For Pleasure’s Sake.
There are a lot of reasons why people have sex, but fundamentally, people have sex because they want to feel good. So why are we taught to feel ashamed of our sexual desires and pleasure? You deserve pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, and in this workshop, we’ll talk about how you can make that a reality.
In this workshop, we’ll tackle:
- sexual shame
- consent and communication
- toy safety and other pleasure basics
- and how you can safely explore your desires — on your own or with partners!
NOTE: This workshop is open to new students and returners.
Post-Event Resources
ForPleasuresSake-NCF21 by clcorradoRecommended Books:
- Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (currently: $39)
- S.E.X., second edition (currently: $17)
- Our Bodies, Ourselves (currently: $21)
- Dating & Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy (currently: $13)
- Come As You Are (currently: $13)
- GIRL: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You (currently: $12)
- Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It (currently: $12)
- The Ultimate Guide to Sex & Disability (currently: $14)
- Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure (currently: $18)
- Healing Painful Sex (currently: $18)
- When Sex Hurts (currently: $16)
- Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma (currently: $18)
Online Resources:
- Bedsider’s Birth Control Method Explorer
- SHIP (formerly known as The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health)
- Dangerous Lilly’s Guide to Toxic Toys
- Bad Vibes: What’s In Your Lube
- NURX
- We Should Try It (sexual interests survey)
- My YouTube series: You Deserve Good Sex
- &Jane Audio Erotica
- Dipsea Stories Audio Erotica
- Pink & White Productions (18+)
A Bunch of Other Things:
- Apply to be a Condom Collective Safe Site (by Sept 1)
- Find your nearest HIV testing location
- Find your closest Planned Parenthood
- Find a polyam-friendly therapist
- Find an LGBTQ-friendly doctor
- Anonymous STI notification service
- Lucky Bloke (condom sampler packs)
- Kate Kenfield’s Tea & Empathy Cards
- The Sex Talk Game
- One Condoms MyOne Program (find your condom fit)
Cool Places to Find Sex Toys
- Good Vibrations (affiliate link)
- Smitten Kitten
- Babeland (this is an affiliate link, so if you make a purchase, I may get a small commission)
- Come As You Are (Canada)
- Self Serve Toys
- She Bop
- Sugar
- Good For Her (Canada)
- Spectrum Boutique (affiliate link)
- Enby (affiliate link — get an extra 10% off with code FEMINISTSEXED)
- Sliquid (save 20% with code EDU20)
- Uberlube
Workshop FAQs
Click each question below to read the answer.
I’m nervous to ask something. Can I ask anonymously?
Absolutely! You can submit anonymous questions in advance here, but I’ll also provide cards so that you can write down any questions that you have.
Will this workshop include LGBTQ+ stuff?
Yep! I won’t make any assumptions about your identity or who you’re interested in (or not interested in). You can expect gender-free language and information relevant to folks all over the gender and sexuality spectrums (including ace folks). If you’re not sure what one of these words means, it would be a great time to submit an anonymous question!
I heard there were prizes. I want one. How do I get one?
Yep, there will be prizes. They’ll be given to folks who ask questions, answer my questions, and then just at random. (And if we have to convert to an online event because of rain, it’ll be done through a totally random raffle draw). As a heads-up, there are a few prizes that you’ll need to be at least 18 years old to claim.
Do I need to be 18 to attend?
Nope, we won’t be showing any explicit content. You do need to be 18 to claim a few of the prizes, though. If you’re not, that’s okay! There will be plenty of prizes that you can get, too.
How do I get a wellness kit with barrier methods and lube?
Come to the event!
It’s raining out. Is this still happening on Z-Green?
Nope. If it’s raining, this event will happen online, so get cozy! You can click here to join. This link won’t take you anywhere meaningful if it isn’t raining, though.
If we have to make a weather adjustment, here are some things to know about the online version:
- Your camera and mic will be automatically off, and you won’t be able to turn them on.
- Your name will be hidden in the chat, so only I’ll see it.
- Prizes will be drawn via raffle.
- Barrier method kits will be distributed by NCSA.
- You don’t need to download anything. Just click that link and you’re in! (But if you want to join from mobile rather than a laptop, you may have an easier time downloading the ClickMeeting app).
Do I have to wear a mask?
I encourage you to! Afterwards, I’ll stick around to answer some questions, and I’ll mask up for those one-on-one conversations.
Who even am I?
Hi! My name is Cassandra and I’m a sex educator. I also happen to be a New College alumna, so I know what a weird and exciting ride you’re in for. I work exclusively with college students and other adults to unlearn some of the pretty funky stuff that we picked up when we were younger. My work centers LGBTQ+ folks, is gender-expansive, and strives to be inclusive of a wide variety of experiences. I also have experience as a victims advocate, so we’ll touch on healing from trauma, too. Teaching sex ed to adults is my full-time job, and it’s super fun! You can find me on Instagram @FeministSexEd. I’m looking forward to learning with you!